I am sending this to you because I really do not know where to turn. My husband had an affair over a year ago at which time I left our home. He want’s me to sign off on everything including his retirement, yesterday he offered me $2,500 if I would sign off. He is a Sgt. with the dept. of corrections. We were together 12 yrs. & Aug 29th will be 9 yrs. we have been married. He does not want any lawyers but says he will pay for a mediator. I can not afford a lawyer as I have lost everything. He also wants me to sign off on a huge lump of money that he will be receiving in October for a contract the state was suppose to settle 4 years ago. This is money I would benefit from had he not have done what he did. Can I get a lawyer & make it so he has to pay for it? I am so confused. I left our home due to him telling me that if I did not leave he would “mind f me” he said he has been an officer in the prison system for 22 yrs & knows how to drive people crazy. We do not have children together which I guess is a very good thing. What do I do?? Thank you so much for your time.. ~Susan in Florida
Your best bet right now is to make appointments with 3 or more divorce attorneys. Many of them offer a 30 or 60-minute free consultation. They can help you to determine what you are entitled to. It will only cost you time, and you will gain a lot of knowledge. You might also want to check to see if there is a free legal aid service in your area.
Let your ex husband pay for a mediator. You will be better prepared to settle, once you have had a few complimentary sessions with some attorneys.
DO NOT let your ex husband bully you out of what you are entitled to.