Ask Cindy: I Still Feel Trapped

I recently got divorced after being married for 4 years to a very verbally abusive man.  He ignored my children and grandchildren during our marriage and limited my contact with them. I could do nothing right in his eyes, I didn't clean the house to his satisfaction, didn't cook right and he even … [Read more...]

How to Let Go of the Past

Are you afraid that if you let go of the past that you will lose control over your life? If you answered yes, you are not alone. You may be afraid that if you let go of the past, that your life will be in shambles. Many women feel that they need to control every aspect of their divorce and their … [Read more...]

Divorce Stories We Tell

There are many divorce stories we tell ourselves as well as others. We may reserve certain stories for our closest friends and may keep some of them to ourselves. When you think about your divorce, what stories automatically come to mind? What if you think of someone else's divorce? Chances are … [Read more...]

Ask Cindy: Should I be Friends with My Ex?

I am recently divorced and have remained friends with my ex-husband. Usually we get along fine and will go out to breakfast with him just as a friend and to talk. Sometimes he will come to my apartment to fix things and I’ll make him dinner. We do not have any children. I do not hate him, however … [Read more...]

Divorce Anger: Poison to Your Soul

Divorce and anger go hand in hand. After all, the two of you are getting divorced because of communication problems and/or an affair. It is perfectly normal to get angry when people don’t act the way we think they should, or when things don’t go the way we want it to. It’s when you become consumed … [Read more...]

Legal Separation vs. Divorce

Often time the first thing women think of after the split of a trying marriage is that it's time to divorce. Is it really? You may decide to just separate or enter into a legal separation. Regardless of your decision, you will still grieve your marriage and will need to let go in order to move … [Read more...]

10 Ways to Celebrate Your Divorce

At first, you might think, “I do not want to celebrate my divorce!” Your divorce is the end of an era. It may well be an ending that you did not ask for and that you did not want. You may have fought tooth and nail to save your marriage. You may have bargained, pleaded, lost weight, wore sexy … [Read more...]

The Emotional Death of Your Marriage

Many women state that deep down they knew their marriage was over long before a separation and a divorce. They did not want to believe it and grasped at everything and anything they could to save their marriage. Long before the words of divorce were spoken, you may have experienced one or more of … [Read more...]

Let Go of the Past and Live in the Present!

Many women often wonder how to let go of the past and to live in the present. Your mind does not know the difference between reality and fiction. It does not know the difference between the past, the present and the future. All it knows is what you are telling it at any given moment through the … [Read more...]

Stop Letting Your Ex Push Your Buttons

Does your ex have a habit of pushing your buttons?  Do you feel like you have to be right and react to the buttons? Are you ready to stop letting your ex push your buttons? The truth is that both you and your ex have fallen into a habitual routine. He says or does something - out of habit. You … [Read more...]